The title might give you an impression that everything in my life is great and I’m super organized and know what I’m doing and when. Well… yes, I am very organized in terms of time or money. And yes, I am slowly making steps to reach my goals. But the truth is… I feel like my life is a mess. I don’t have a stable job, I technically still live with my parents even though I don’t actually live in the same country, I don’t have a clue where I’d like to work and what exactly should that job be. I don’t have a boyfriend and there is no sign of having a relationship soon, let alone starting a family, like many of my classmates from uni already have. Now you’re probably asking how can a person like this give you any advice?
Maybe I can’t. But my head is always busy thinking about my future. I love planning and I was just thinking that some of the things I do which keep me motivated might work for you as well.
Here are a few things that I do in order to organize my life!
Setting goals! How poetic…
That sounds like a cliché, but it really is the first thing you should do. These goals could be long term, like for example “I’m going to move to America and start my life there” or short term, like “I’m going to the gym tomorrow”. And as you can see, I didn’t say “I would like to” but “I’m going to”. And there is a big difference.
Also, don’t let other people tell you what you should do. Before I set a bigger goal in my life, I make sure that it’s 100% what I want to do. And by this I mean that it comes 100% from myself, not from my friends, family, advertisements, society in general.
There is always a tiny bit of uncertainty in everything you do. Do you want to spend 9 months traveling Asia? Have you always wished you could do something like that? Or has it maybe just come to your mind recently but you can’t stop thinking about it? Then do it, set it as a goal. Of course you might be terrified of doing this, because you’re about to step out of your comfort zone. But this is something you want to do a remember: “In the end, we only regret chances we didn’t take!”.
A very different story would be if for example your friend asked you to do the same thing with them. Now, they really want to do it, because It’s their goal in life. But is it yours? I know, I know… people are different. Some people make decisions on the spot and just do it. They might regret it later but they don’t care (The saying from above applies here too 😀 ). But if you’re a worrier like me, you should make sure that it comes from you. And then….just f…ing do it! 😀 . Whatever it is, because trust me, nothing is impossible.
Here are some examples of the goals you can set:
- Getting accepted to a summer acting school (even though my acting is shocking 😀 )
- Moving to Prague and studying journalism (even though I hate big cities and I worry too much to be a journalist 😀 )
- Working in a summer camp in America (even though I went to a summer camp in the Czech Republic twice as a camper and I cried for the whole 2 weeks and I hate spending time in the countryside and I’m scared of animals and… you’ve got the idea now 😀 )
- Studying PE and English (Even though I’m terrible at sports 😀 )
- Working in England (I work as a sports teacher… eh.. 😀 )
- Going to Costa Rica for a month to study Spanish (Even though I don’t speak a word in Spanish 😀 )
These were my actual goals that I’ve set and written down. I’ve done all of them, except the very last one (that’s my current goal 😀 ). Not all of them ended well, but in the end, I don’t regret doing it at all. Some of them sounded impossible, but it all worked out. Only because I wanted to try it. If you would like to read more about how I managed to get accepted to that acting school even though I am a terrible actress or how I got eventually accepted to my dream camp in America after being kicked out of this program by the agency at first… Go to my Life section, I’ll post my stories very soon 🙂 . Remember, if you really want to do something, you surround yourself with the right people and things and YOU! yourself make it happen 😉
Making to-do lists. Are you bored yet? 😀
It’s nothing new, I’m with you on this. But surprisingly, this is actually something that works for a lot of people. It did for me anyway. There is nothing better than ticking a thing that you managed to do in a day, month, year… You can make a list of things which you would like to achieve in the next few days or months, like “finish my thesis on time, sign for a yoga class, finally sort out my wardrobe… “. But sometimes, I struggle to go through days. I feel restless and I feel like my life is not going anywhere. The same routine, the same problems, the same people… I feel like I’m not achieving anything whatsoever.
What helps me with that is to write daily plans. Yeah I know, I am a planning geek, so I take it to a whole new level 😀 But a few things that I do could help you as well. When I have the feelings mentioned above, I write down things I’d like to do in a day. And these things are the most simple things ever, like “Buy lunch”, “Shave my legs”, “Do my laundry”, “Study for 30 minutes”. It sounds absolutely bonkers, but trust me, it does work. This also could help people suffering from depression or anxiety. Even a simple task like “Get out of bed” or “Get out of my house” is an accomplishment.
At the end of the day, you look at the things on the list that are all ticked and you end up feeling good about yourself. You’ve done something. It worked well during my years at university. You can get easily lost in the routine. For example, I was often forgetting to do things just for myself (considering I shared dormitories with 2 other people for 6 years). And very often, I felt bad about myself for partying, not studying enough or on the contrary for not doing anything else then attending lessons and going to work… Very easy plans of the day can help you feel way better about yourself. You can be still doing the same. Like.. you take a long nap, you can go to a party, you can eat the whole bar of chocolate, you can watch 3 seasons of friends during one night. But what you should do is having some other things written down for a day that you’d like to do. Here are some actual examples of my plans. It’s in Czech, so you probably won’t understand, but just so you get an idea 🙂 :
Money Money Money, always sunny…
Yeah, the last thing I’d like to talk about is money. I understand that it is usually an issue that takes you away from doing loads of things. We don’t choose which family we are born in, we don’t choose our parent’s salaries. But once you are an adult, things can change. Nowadays, there are so many job opportunities, voluntary work or other ways that can help you make your life so much better. I feel like the biggest desire of young people (but older people as well!) today is travelling. Here is a situation that happened to me once. I booked a trip to Bali (Haha, that also didn’t end well 😀 very soon, you can go to my Travelling section to read more about my trip that ended in the Indonesian hospital 😀 ) and my friend said “OMG! how do you do that? Where do you get the money from? I also want to go! But I can’t because I don’t have money!”. Wrong and wrong. He didn’t really want to go, because if he did, he’d work for it as it was his biggest goal. And the money part… This friend could definitely save money to go on this trip. He just spend it on something else. It’s all about priorities. Money is not everything, some things are actually not as expensive as you think. And some are… But there is always a way of getting there.
What I do is I constantly check my bank accounts (I have a Czech one and an English one). I make sure I pay my insurance on time and all of the other important things that should be paid (that’s also included in my daily or monthly to do list 😛 😀 ).
Let’s say I’m planning to go to Costa Rica now. Quite expensive to book a 4 weeks Spanish course there. So first, I wrote down my current savings and a salary I should get this month. Then I wrote down how much money is actually POSSIBLE for me to earn in the next few months and how much money I’ll most definitely spend until I go to Costa Rica. Then, I made the numbers even smaller, because let’s be honest, you always spend more than you think you would 😀 After that, I made a folder on my bank account with money I’m not going to touch, whatever happens! Now once this is done, I’ll make sure that a bit of my salary always goes to that folder. And that’s it! After all of the counting I figured out that in about 5 months, I’ll have enough money for the trip and enough savings if somethings unexpected happens (Bali has taught me 😀 ). You might say – but I want to go now! Well… things usually don’t happen overnight. You need to work for them. But they are also not impossible 🙂 At least you’ll have something to look forward! (And to work for as your goal, haha see, it’s all connected 😉 ).
Here is an example of my financial planning. It’s super messy and again in Czech, but hey, I know what it all means and thats important 😀 (You can tell I’m very messy… Such a good combination… A messy planning geek 😀 )
That is all from me today! If you have any questions or if you want to hear more about the weird and cliché things that I do or you just want some of my personal stories, Leave a comment below!
Have a wonderful day, month, year, life! 😀 🙂